If I am living in a real personal relationship with the God-Trinity, my human relationships become more important in one way, because I see the real value of man, but less important in another way because I do not need to be God in these relationships any longer. So now I can go up to a man and say, ‘I am sorry for such and such specific harm I have done you,’ without smashing the integration point of my universe, because my integration point is no longer myself, but God. And we do not need to wait for the big explosions, especially among brothers and sisters in Christ. We do not need to wait for someone else to begin. This is being what we should be, and it should be moment by moment.
This is communication. The men of the modern world are asking whether personality is real, whether communication is real, whether it has meaning. We Christians can talk till we are blue in the face, but it will all be meaningless unless we exhibit communication. When as a Christian I stand before a man and say ‘I am sorry,’ this is not only legally right and pleasing to God, but it is true communication on a highly personal level. In this setting, the human race is human.
Of course, confession to God must always come first. It is confession to God and bringing sin under the shed blood of Christ that cleanses us—not confession to man. We must always stress that, over and over again, because men get confused. But this does not change the fact that after there has been confession to God, then there must be real communication n a man-to-man, personal relationship with the person I have hurt.
Thoughts developed or used directly from the work of Schaeffer, Francis. True Spirituality . Tyndale House Publishers, Inc