(Monday-Friday mornings, from my daily time of study and reflection, I will share with you what God is teaching me. I ask you then to join me in each day and pray that God will use our time to draw us to a deeper understanding of His will and His ways. Our objective is simple…to ‘see’ and ‘know’ the light and love of Christ Jesus..‘so that’ we will GO OUT and share the love of Christ Jesus with someone in that day….to GO and bear fruit …to be light to the world.)
Today’s Daily Light
Your Marriage Is Worth The Work…article by John Piper
Picture your marriage as a grassy field. You enter at the beginning full of hope and joy, and you look out on the field and you see beautiful flowers, and grass stretching, and rolling hills, and trees, and it is beautiful. You want to walk in this all your days.
The grass, the flowers, the hills, the sky, the warm breeze is not what happens to you. It’s the relationship. That’s the analogy and I’m interpreting it for you. I’m describing your relationship. On the wedding day it feels like, “I want this woman, and I want this man, and we want to be together and walk in the beautiful fields of green grass, and spring flowers, and trees, and hills, and bright sunshine, and cool breezes. That’s the way it’s going to be.”
And before long you step in a cow pie. In some seasons of your marriage, they seem to be everywhere. “This is not grass. This is just manure.” Late at night, they become especially prevalent when there’s no sleep. There are more cow pies when you don’t get enough sleep. These are sins, flaws, idiosyncrasies, weaknesses, annoying habits in your spouse, and you try to forgive them, and you try to forbear and the problem is they can tend to dominate the relationship. Everywhere you step, it smells. It may not actually be true that they’re everywhere; it just feels that way.
“Satan and our flesh can begin to take a few disappointments in marriage, a few frustrations, and multiply them so out of proportion.”
I think the combination of forbearance and forgiveness leads to the creation of a compost pile. Here at the compost pile, you and your spouse, begin to shovel cow pies into this pile, and you put a fence around it to hold them in. You look at each other, and you simply admit that there are a lot of cow pies. You just bluntly say, “There are a lot of cow pies in this field. You and I bring a lot of cow pies to this relationship.”
So you start shoveling them into this fenced-in compost pile, and you say to each other, “You know, we have to do this because we’re losing sight of the fact that we keep focusing on these cow pies. That’s all we’re thinking about. I mean, we’re looking for them to step in, so let’s get them and throw them in one place. Let’s throw them in a pile, a compost pile since compost can do some good. So let’s throw them there, and when we have to, we’ll go there. We’ll go there and we’ll smell it, and we’ll feel bad, and we’ll deal with it as best we can. Then we’ll walk away from the pile. We’ll walk away from it, and we’ll set our eyes on the rest of the field.”
This is right at the heart of what I’m trying to say. Satan and our flesh can begin to take a few disappointments, a few frustrations, and multiply them so out of proportion that we think, “There’s no green grass anywhere. There are no flowers anywhere. There are no trees. There are no hills. There’s no sunshine.” That is an absolute lie.
And then you say to each other, “We’re gonna walk away from that pile, set our eyes on the rest of the field. And we’re gonna pick some of our favorite paths and hills that we know are not strewn with cow pies, and we’re going to be thankful that that part of the field is sweet. It might be a small part now, but that part is sweet. Our hands may be dirty and our backs might ache from all this shoveling, but we know one thing: We will not pitch our tent by the compost pile. We will go there when we must. This is the gift of grace that we will give each other again and again and again. We will only go there when we must. We won’t go live there. We won’t retreat there, we won’t lick our wounds there, we won’t pitch our tent there. We will only go there when we must, and that gift we will give to each other again and again and again. Why? Because you and I are chosen and holy and loved.” (end of article 😊)